May 26, 2022.
Are you judging yourself based on chapter one of your life? Or are you judging yourself based on who you were in the past and you are still focusing on that? Are you assuming that because something was true in chapter one of your life, it will remain true in this new chapter?
No one is more judgmental of yourself than you
People emphasize how other people are judging them and preach about ignoring that. But they don’t point out the main culprit. Ourselves. Do you agree that no one is more judgmental of yourself than you? We are constantly watching ourselves and making opinions based on what we think we should be doing. In some cases, the judgment comes as a comparison between where we are and where someone else is. This judgment is actually an enemy of progress.
How this judgement is an enemy of progress
Imagine this: you’re a swimmer in a race, and you keep stopping to think about how you dived into the pool at the start of the race. Will you get anywhere? Or imagine you keep popping your head out to check all the swimmers’ strokes in the other lanes? Will you get anywhere? You might finish the race, but you won’t perform at your best. It doesn’t help us to consistently lament on why we aren’t a certain way or why we haven’t caught up with another person.
There will be plenty of time to judge yourself in the future, now is not the time
We judge ourselves based on how other people are doing but we don’t even know what chapter of their life they are in. Sometimes we don’t even know what chapter of our lives we are in. You might still be in chapter one of your life. We are all trying to figure out who we are, what we stand for, and where we want to go. That isn’t the time to judge yourself but to be more accepting of everything that you’ve done and achieved thus far. This will allow you to continue moving forward.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t assess where your life is in relation to where you want to go. However, there is a type of self-judgement which is more self-defeating. It’s usually rooted in beating yourself about what’s not working or how you could be more like someone else. This type of judgment is not constructive.
Question of the day:
- Am I judging myself based on the early stages of my life?
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